Holiday generosity can be frustrating

With the holiday season rapidly approaching, my thoughts have turned to the generosity required this year to help others in need. I hope that all of our readers are taking just a moment during the Christmas season to think of ways they can possibly help others who are less fortunate.

This newspaper sponsored a Community Christmas Campaign for nearly 30 years with good success. We abandoned that program a couple of years ago because of a growing frustration we found with the same families applying year after year. We've questioned whether it was a mistake to end the program but have concluded it was the best approach.

All of us want to help those who cannot help themselves. That's just part of the make-up of mankind, or so I think. But the problem is that far too many people who have the ability to help themselves instead rely on the generosity of others. And that spoils the giving spirit for everyone.

I've often wondered about the issue of poverty. How much of poverty is self-inflected and how much is simply beyond the control of the individual?

Should we hold that same Christian approach toward giving to those in need regardless of their circumstances? I, for one, simply cannot. I hold in contempt those who seek the generosity of others without lifting a finger to help their own cause. Unfortunately, there are far too many among us who have adopted this selfish approach to life.

I would urge everyone this Christmas season to seek out someone in need. But first I would ask that you honestly consider the plight of these individuals and families and determine in your own way if their needs are self-inflicted or genuine.

If, as a society, we continue to give to those who choose to live off of the generosity of others, then what service are we really accomplishing? Do we simply perpetuate a lifestyle that refuses to lift themselves? If so, we are wrong.

The time is running short and there are most certainly needs that will go unmet. I would encourage everyone to find someone in need - truly in need - and share this holiday with them. But I also caution to seek those individuals with care and concern and an honest appraisal toward their needs. If they are able to work but unwilling, then perhaps your generosity would be better given elsewhere. If they are unable to provide for their own needs, then by all means, adopt the spirit of the season and share your joy with others.