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Holiday birthdays are not always merry and bright

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

SIKESTON -- Virginia Carlson of New Madrid says she was born on the biggest letdown day of the year -- Dec. 26.

"I'm still waiting for my birthday party," said the soon-to-be 75-year-old.

Like Carlson, Lyndsey Mosby of Benton said it's difficult to get family and friends together to celebrate a birthday during the Christmas season because everyone is so busy with holiday parties and family gatherings.

"I never celebrate my birthday," said Mosby, who turned 29 on Dec. 18.

Mosby said the past couple of years, her mother has watched her two children half a day on her birthday so she can wrap Christmas presents. Then her husband will usually make dinner for her, she said.

And, if, on that rare occasion, she does get to celebrate her birthday, Mosby said it's been on accident. For example, Mosby attended a family member's college graduation party Dec. 20, and although the party technically wasn't for her, Mosby said family and friends also celebrated her belated birthday.

Besides not having a true celebration, Mosby and Carlson noted they usually get one present for both Christmas and their birthdays.

"When you've got a birthday on the 26th, you get one gift," said Carlson, who also married her husband on Dec. 28.

Mosby said she often gets the birthday/Christmas gift, too.

"I think, 'Did I really get a birthday gift, or is it a Christmas gift?'" Mosby said. "If your birthday was in June, I wouldn't say, 'Here's your birthday and Christmas gift.'"

Birthday cakes were pretty much nonexistent for Carlson.

"My mom always made a fresh coconut cake for Christmas and said it could also be for my birthday, but it was always gone before my birthday," Carlson said.

Some people celebrate their December birthdays in June or July, but Mosby and Carlson said that's something they've ever done.

"If you celebrate in June or July, it seems like it would be fake," Carlson said.

Mosby suggested for parents who have children born around Christmastime to make sure and separate the birthday from Christmas.

"Make it their own day," Mosby said. "And make sure the child knows it's his day, and the celebration is all geared toward his birthday."

Sherry Myers of Sikeston agreed. Her youngest son, Paul, turns 3 today, and her other son turned 11 Dec. 15.

"You celebrate their birthdays at Christmastime, but I don't want to cheat them out of their birthdays. Paul is young right now. Once he's older, his birthday will celebrated differently," Myers said.

Currently, Myers and her family celebrate Paul's birthday by getting a cake on Christmas eve and taking it to her mother- and father-in-law's where they've always celebrated the holiday before Paul's birth.

While there are some downfalls to being born around Christmastime, there's also something to be said for being born near the date of Jesus' birth.

"It was not a normal pregnancy at all. I had to have an emergency C-section because the placenta was coming out before he was," Myers recalled.

After Paul was born, he was placed on oxygen, his mother recalled. Fortunately, everything turned out fine, Myers said.

"He's my miracle baby. He's been fighting ever since he was born," Myers said.

Meanwhile, Carlson said she doesn't think there's much people with Christmastime birthdays can do to change the pattern of how their special days are celebrated.

"It's going to be an uphill struggle," Carlson warned those with Christmastime birthdays. "... Face the facts and live with it."